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Labels are not only misleading, but they can also define us in a way that is not beneficial for us to be defined. If someone asks me about another person they’ve never met and I characterize the person as strange or as someone who doesn’t conform to society’s norms, or even having an unusual appearance, this portrayal would be interpreted by a hundred people in a hundred different ways according to their unique belief systems. So, everything becomes relative.

What does it mean to label someone as having cancer when everyone has active cancer cells in their body? There can be two individuals with the exact same cancer diagnosis regarding the type of cancer and its stage of development, and because of genetics, not even counting environmental factors or diet, these people can experience two different scenarios. One person’s ancer could be growing rapidly while the other person’s cancer may have remained stagnant at the same level for many years and only discovered by a fluke.

If we were to present this scenario to many different doctors, a majority would recommend treatment, but some might advise to take a wait-and-see approach. Even within the subset that recommends treatment, the treatment recommendations would vary somewhat depending on their training and their belief system, both personal and professional.

What I am trying to impress upon you is that life and the way we interpret the world inside and outside of us is all relative. How the doctor defines you or what treatment path you’re told to follow cannot be taken as an absolute.

Unfortunately, fear makes us want to look for and cling to absolutes to provide some measure of relief and safety—we want to deal with something known instead of something unknown—but arriving at a place of peace, acceptance, and security won’t happen if we never address the underlying fear. And why do we fear the unknown when it is unknown?

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What "They" Say!

Soon after I began my diet changes, I would look in the mirror and say that I looked and felt great, which I truly did. But then this voice would pop up saying, “Oh, but they tell you that you have cancer.” While this was obviously true at some level, if I had energized that thought—which came from outside conditioning and was only a label—and allowed it to become a strong belief that became my frequent reality instead of the reality of feeling and looking good, then I would have created a harder path for myself and likely a different outcome.

Einstein said that everything in life is vibration. The vibration or frequency we’re operating at will bring us more of the same. Thus, we want to be highly cognizant of our thoughts, beliefs, and emotions, since they’re playing a big part in creating our reality.

When we define someone with a label, we are putting them in a box. The problem that arises is that if the person being placed in a box believes this label and that they’re confined within the walls of that box, this belief can then be reinforced in a negative cycle. Simply, if we believe we are sick, then the universe brings us more of that.

How We Define Ourselves

If we define ourselves as having a health issue that we’re temporarily dealing with, we greatly expand the walls of the box and open up much larger avenues for our healing. I am not playing word games here—how you define yourself and your present situation is critical.

I would not and did not say to anyone that I was a cancer patient, and my wife and children and close friends did not define me that way either. I said I was dealing with a temporary health issue.

Embracing the Paradox

We have to embrace the paradox, which is very hard for most people as it was for me for a long time. The universe is actually one large paradox. A paradox can be defined as a statement or proposition that seems self-contradictory but that is actually expressing a truth. In the paradox we have to simultaneously hold both sides.

The paradox around our cancer is that we want something to be different—we want to be completely healthy AND we see ourselves that way—while we also understand that it’s likely we don’t yet fully recognize this truth and that because of this and the fact that we exist in a human body, we may need to take some physical action to address the cancer. 

Staying in the paradox keeps us in a state where we recognize the unity behind everything, which empowers us to access a much higher perspective for the decision-making process and to access, too, all possibilities for the highest outcome.

We live in a world where we have to use labels, and of course at some level of reality you do have “cancer,” but at another level of reality, you are whole and perfect. It’s another paradox we have to hold, and it’s tangential to the one discussed above. But the main takeaway from this chapter is not to define yourself—and also not to let others define you—with some label that puts you in a box and makes it much harder for you to climb out of it.

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Article Source: Healing Cancer

Healing Cancer: The Complete Way
by Lawrence Doochin

book cover: Healing Cancer by Lawrence DoochinHaving undergone a cancer journey himself, Lawrence Doochin understands the severe fear and trauma that those who have cancer, and their loved ones, experience. His heart opens to each of you with the greatest compassion and empathy, and this book was written to be of service. 

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Lawrence DoochinLawrence Doochin is an author, entrepreneur, and devoted husband and father. A survivor of harrowing childhood sexual abuse, he traveled a long journey of emotional and spiritual healing and developed an in-depth understanding of how our beliefs create our reality. In the business world, he has worked for, or been associated with, enterprises from small startups to multinational corporations.

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